Common Myths about Bisexuality
1. Myth: Bisexuality only is a transition phase for people coming out as gay or lesbian.
Reality: Some gay and lesbian people identify as bisexual before coming out as gay or lesbian. Likewise, some people who now identify as bisexual previously identified as gay or lesbian. Other people identify as bisexual their whole lives. For some people, their experience of sexuality is fluid, something that can change over the course of their lifetimes.
2. Myth: Bisexuals are equally attracted to men and women.
Reality: Some are. But many people who identify as bisexual are be more attracted to men or more attracted to women. Some say they are attracted to men and women in different ways, and others say gender is not relevant to whom they are interested in. One way of understanding this is the Kinsey scale. Kinsey put sexual orientation on a scale from 0 to 6, with 0 being exclusively heterosexual and 6 exclusively homosexual. Much attention focuses on the Kinsey "3" -- a perfect bisexual who is exactly one half way between gay and straight. But people whose experiences fall in the 1 to 5 range may also chose to identify as bisexual.
3. Myth: Bisexual people are more promiscuous than heterosexual or gay and lesbian people.|
Reality: Bisexuality is a sexual orientation. It is independent of the decision to be monogamous or non-monogamous. Some heterosexuals, gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are monogamous, others are not. It is a mistake to assume that because someone has the potential to be attracted to men and women, they must have twice as many sex partners.
4. Myth: Bisexuals need at least one partner of each gender.
Reality: Bisexuals have the potential to be attracted to more than gender, but they do not necessarily need to have a partner of each gender. Most bisexuals do not have to be involved with more than one gender at a time in order to feel fulfilled.
5. Myths: Everyone is bisexual. No one is bisexual.
Reality: These two statements reflect the our culture's mixed messages about bisexuality, and neither is true. Some people identify as bisexual. Many more will have had, and will continue to have, sexual experiences with both men and women.